Wow. I can’t believe I’m 35 years old today. I guess something I would say to my friends is “Can’t believe I’m halfway to forty!” Never could I have imagined being this old when I was a little girl. I always dreamed of who I would be and what role I would be playing in the world at 35. Of course, I always thought of myself as a corporate person. No joke, when I was around ten, I used to walk around my block holding a briefcase thinking I was working or doing something important. Dreaming of being some big-time working woman. Only to find myself just walking around aimlessly lugging a big old briefcase. Little did I know at 35 I would still be trying to figure out who I am, what I want to be doing, and what mark I want to leave in this world. What I can say is that I’m a mommy to two handsome boys Cole and Caleb, and married to my dream Husband, and a momager of my household.
My life has gone through its fair share of trials and tribulations. With the world forever changing right before our eyes, there are a few things I’ve taken away from over the years and am now excited to implement them in my new chapter in life as a 35-year-old woman, mommy, wife, daughter, and sister.
Below are just seven things I’ve learned 35-years around the sun:
- Be more silly in life. Go dance around with your kid to Baby Shark or whatever else they want to boogie out to. Play dress up and go full character mode whether that be the princess at the tea party, the knight on top of the castle. Just be silly. We need to stop being so serious in life. It’s great to know that happiness and laughter pulse the sounds of your walls and leave their mark as a forever memory that will soon be in the distant future.
- Living in fear is useless. It only stops you from moving forward. It can only harm who you want to be in this world. Let it go! Shake it off.
- Do what’s best for you and your family and be confident in your decisions. Don’t worry what others will think of you. It can be crippling and make your journey tougher when you bear the weight of others.
- Pick and choose your battles in life. Don’t argue over little things. Pick the battles you feel mean something to you. Do not start petty arguments when it’s not necessary.
- Carve out time each day for yourself. Whether that be working out from home when the kids are napping or asleep for bedtime. Meditate in the morning before starting your day. It’s important that you fill up your cup first so you can be the best version of yourself for yourself and your family.
- Trust your Mom instincts. I’ve learned this the hard way. When I was a new mother I hired this babysitter from a credible web source but I just had this gut feeling something wasn’t right. I thought I was overreacting. Thank goodness most of the time when she watched my son I was home but the one night I let her watch my four-month-old at night so my husband and I could enjoy a night out, I found her drugged and passed out on my couch. Thank God nothing was wrong with my sweet baby but I learned if I listened to my gut earlier, I wouldn’t have been in that situation in the first place.
- Speak kindly to yourself and about yourself. You need to be your own best friend and speak words of encouragement. What you think about yourself projects out into the universe and then the universe matches that energy vibration and you start attracting less than worthy things into your life.
I’m not always perfect at all the things I’ve learned throughout my years but I keep practicing and that’s what is important. It’s pivoting when needed and recognizing when you need to get back on track that is the key to a successful life.
